Kindness to Parents

Kindness to Parents


Qur'an Workshop on

Kindness to Parents

A. Individual Study Segment

I Filling out the Worksheet

II Writing out the Translation

III Comparison with a Standard Translation

IV Random Checking of Translation by the Instructor

V Writing out the Arabic

VI Reading aloud the Arabic by a Participant

VII Volunteers' Direct Translation of the Verse

B. Group Study Segment

I Comprehension Questions

C. Evaluation Segment

I Quiz

D. Follow-up Segment

I Listen to the Recital of the Verse

II Memorize the Verse

III Evaluation Diary

IV Reconsider the Quiz

V. Self-Awareness Campaign

Text Under Scrutiny

وَ وَصَّیۡنَا الۡاِنۡسَانَ بِوَالِدَیۡہِ حَمَلَتۡہُ اُمُّہٗ وَہۡنًا عَلٰی وَہۡنٍ وَّ فِصٰلُہٗ فِیۡ عَامَیۡنِ اَنِ اشۡکُرۡ لِیۡ وَ لِوَالِدَیۡکَ اِلَیَّ الۡمَصِیۡرُ.(14:31)

A. Individual Study Segment

Step 1: Fill out the first lines of the following tables by placing the translation of the Arabic word below it and then make the scrambled sentence into a meaningful one in the last lines of each of the tables.

I

وَ: and

وَصَّیۡنَا: we counselled

الۡاِنۡسَانَ: man

بِ: about

وَالِدَیۡہِ: his parents

وَ وَصَّیۡنَا الۡاِنۡسَانَ بِ وَالِدَیۡہِ

II

حَمَلَتۡہُ: carried him

اُمُّہٗ: his mother

وَہۡنًا: weakness

عَلٰی: upon

وَہۡنٍ: weakness

حَمَلَتۡہُ اُمُّہٗ وَہۡنًا عَلٰی وَہۡنٍ

III

وَ: and

فِصٰلُہٗ: his weaning

فِیۡ: in

عَامَیۡنِ: two years

وَ فِصٰلُہٗ فِیۡ عَامَیۡنِ

IV

اَنِ: that

اشۡکُرۡ: show gratitude

لِیۡ: to me

وَ: and

لِ: to

وَالِدَیۡکَ: your parents

اَنِ اشۡکُرۡ لِیۡ وَ لِ وَالِدَیۡکَ

V

اِلَیَّ: to me alone

الۡمَصِیۡرُ: the return

اِلَیَّ الۡمَصِیۡرُ

Step II: Write out your complete translation here: (note: before you do this exercise, please hide with a sheet of paper if the standard translation written in the next step is visible to you)

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Step III: Compare your Translation with the Following:

And We have counselled man regarding his parents – His mother carried him with weakness upon weakness, and his weaning takes two years – "Show gratitude to Me and to your parents. And towards Me alone is the return." (31:14)

Step IV: Random Checking of Translation by the Instructor

Step V: Writing out the Arabic Text

وَ وَصَّیۡنَا الۡاِنۡسَانَ بِوَالِدَیۡہِ حَمَلَتۡہُ اُمُّہٗ وَہۡنًا عَلٰی وَہۡنٍ وَّ فِصٰلُہٗ فِیۡ عَامَیۡنِ اَنِ اشۡکُرۡ لِیۡ وَ لِوَالِدَیۡکَ اِلَیَّ الۡمَصِیۡرُ.(14:31)

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Step VI: Reading aloud the Arabic Text by a Participant

وَ وَصَّیۡنَا الۡاِنۡسَانَ بِوَالِدَیۡہِ حَمَلَتۡہُ اُمُّہٗ وَہۡنًا عَلٰی وَہۡنٍ وَّ فِصٰلُہٗ فِیۡ عَامَیۡنِ اَنِ اشۡکُرۡ لِیۡ وَ لِوَالِدَیۡکَ اِلَیَّ الۡمَصِیۡرُ.(14:31)

Step VII: Volunteers' Direct Translation of the Verse

B. Group Study Segment

Step I: Comprehension Questions

1. The verse asks us to be thankful to our parents. What are the various ways of showing gratitude to our parents?

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2. Enlist some wrong attitudes of parents

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3. Suggest ways to deal with harsh parents

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C. Evaluation Segment

How kind are you to your Parents?

1. You are on a foreign tour and have ample time and money for shopping. You:

i. do not make the effort to buy gifts for your parents.

ii. buy the cheapest gifts for them.

iii. think of lying to them that you did not have the time to go shopping for them.

iv. take out time and buy the most appropriate gifts for them even though they may not be expensive.

2. Your mother scolds you for a mistake you never made. In return, you:

i. scold her back.

ii. abuse her.

iii. patiently bear her anger but are impolite to her for some hours.

iv. patiently bear her anger and show politeness immediately after.

3. Your old father is sick and needs to be taken to the doctor. You:

i. keep delaying this task.

ii. ask some else to take him even though you have the time.

iii. take him to the nearest doctor but not to the most competent one who lives a little far.

iv. immediately take him to the best doctor in town.

4. Your old mother asks you for new clothes. You:

i. keep postponing her request.

ii. buy her coarse and cheap clothes even though you can afford good ones.

iii. fulfil her request in the best possible way.

iv. never comply even though you have the time and money.

5. Your old mother accidentally breaks a very expensive vase in your drawing room. At this, you:

i. ignore the whole incident and behave as if it never happened.

ii. ask your mother what happened but do not show any displeasure.

iii. ask your mother and show displeasure on what happened.

iv. react violently and scold her for this.

6. Your old parents keep forgetting and say the same things over and over to you. At this, you:

i. listen to them with a smiling face each time they repeat something.

ii. listen to them patiently but displeasure can be seen on your face.

iii. politely make them realize that you do not want to listen to them.

iv. scold them and tell them to not irritate you in this manner.

7. Your own children are not very respectful to your parents. So, you:

i. teach them how to show respect by becoming an example before them.

ii. very occasionally tell them to be respectful.

iii. never tell them to be respectful.

iv. behave in a similar manner as your children.

8. Your ailing father wants to go for early morning walks every day but he needs help and cannot go alone. You:

i. go with him sacrificing your sleep.

ii. send your servant / son / a helper with him.

iii. do not go your self or make any arrangements and politely refuse.

iv. do not go your self or make any arrangements and scold him for asking you again and again.

9. Your old parents cannot live alone. You have space in your home but:

i. send them to an old home to avoid the hassle of taking care of them.

ii. ask a servant to live with them in a separate house.

iii. bring them home and treat them as if they are unwanted.

iv. bring them home and feel it an honour to be of service to them.

10. Your spouse is disrespectful to your parents. You:

i. counsel your spouse to be respectful.

ii. very occasionally ask your spouse to be more respectful.

iii. do not take notice of the situation.

iv. join your spouse in this bad behaviour.

D. Follow-Up Segment

I Listen to the Recital of this Verse:

http://thequranrecitation.com/luqman.html?language=arabic

II Memorize this Verse

III. Improve yourself through Self-Evaluation

Write a "Kindness to Parents" diary for two weeks. Each day write down the unkind acts done by you towards your parents. At the end of two weeks, share this with your closest friend or with your instructor or just destroy it.

Make a commitment to yourself that in future you will not make these mistakes.

IV Reconsider the Quiz

Go back and study the quiz you have attempted. In particular, study the answers in which you have scored less. Re-evaluate your choices and make a commitment to improve in this area.

V Become a Volunteer for the Kindness to ParentsCampaign in the Following Ways:

(1) Search the Internet for:

i. Videos about Kindness to Parents

ii. Songs about Kindness to Parents

iii. Essays and Stories about Kindness to Parents

iv. Poems about Kindness to Parents

v. Powerpoint Presentations about Kindness to Parents

(2) Conduct this Kindness to ParentsAwareness Workshop among your Friends

(3) Design Activity-Based Workshops for Kids about Kindness to Parents

(4) Create a Website on Kindness to Parents

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