Legal Name Of An Adopted Child

am an I unmarried woman, about 48 years in age. I am currently working as a school principal. A cousin of mine is a gynaecologist, and a few days back, a girl came from delivery, in her hospital and her old father was with her. Her husband had died a few months back, so did she after giving birth to a baby boy. Her father refused to take the child in his custody, for he is too old to look after the child. Thus, it should be given to a family which can care for it properly. The baby was given to a nurse for a few days. The nurse got worried when people started handing her thousands of rupees for the sake of raising the child. She wanted to hand over the baby to the right people. Understanding the situation I adopted the child. What I need to know is whose name should I write as the child’s surname for I do not know the name of the father and I have to get the registration form from NADRA. My own ID card is connected to my brothers family and a family number is needed to connect the child. It is important because the baby is now 25 days old and still needs to get registered in the UNION COUNCIL.

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Reward For Childless Parents

I hope you are doing very well. I have been browsing the internet for information on this matter but, unfortunately, couldn't find any satisfying answer to my question. I have been married for many years now, but, unfortunately we don’t have any kids. We have always heard ayahs and hadith regarding good parenting and rewards for it - including grant of a place in heaven. My question and concern is that if a couple stays childless due to Allah's will, is there any compensation for that hereafter?

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Rewarding Children

Do you think it is a good practice to reward a child, for instance, for performing his obligatory prayers, because one fears that otherwise the child would neglect his prayers?

To my mind, at some instances it may be quite acceptable to reward a child if one is reassured that the child wouldn't develop an incorrect attitude.

Should one completely refrain from this idea, how do you view this matter?

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Choosing Names Of Angels For Children

I was wondering if there is any clear prohibition/direction in Islam regarding giving your children names of angels like Jibrael, Mikael etc. Also, what is Islam's position on angel's gender and if by calling male child Jibrael actually violates the principles of Islam.

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Religious Training Of The Children

I heard in a lecture by Javed Ahmed Ghamdi that we should give "understanding to our kids about tawheed (unicity of God) and shirk (polytheism)". Honestly I grew up in a Muslim family but nobody gave us this understanding. “Everything is just there” kind of thing and now being living in US Mr Ghamdi's talk touched me from heart. Please ask him how can I give this understanding to my kids and probably for myself too

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Identity Of An Adopted Child

I adopted a child of my wife's brother. I came to Saudi Arabia as an employee with my wife and my adopted child. For this purpose I marked the passport of my adopted child on my name. I admitted my adopted child in a school where all documentation completed with my name. In Pakistan I admitted my adopted child in a school with his real father name. I have completed child adoption process legally by family court in Pakistan. I have complete legal documentation but for going to Saudi Arabia they didn't accept. All my relatives know this my son is a adopted. My question is can I live with my adopted child in Saudi Arabia with my name or send him to back to Pakistan with my wife. So please give me complete guidance in the light of the Qura'n and Sunnah.

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Giving Children French Name

Can we name a Muslim child by name with Islamic spirit but in French language form e.g elsa meaning blessed by Allah?

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Claiming Custody Of Children

I have a situation with my former spouse. I had two children with her (I was not a Muslim during this period) and now the relationship has ended. I have followed the laws of our society and have received nothing but heartache in attempts to continue my relationship with my children who remain with her. She has destroyed my relationship with my children purposely and I am not involved in their lives and am the by- product of what is termed \"Severe Parental Alenation\". My question is: Under this term, I could take her to court, prove my case of alienation easily, and quite possibly remove my children (age 14 and 12), by verdict of the court which would remove them from the destruction that she has caused. Custody would go with me. I have read that Allah wishes us not to seek revenge and to find another way and to not let anger be our motivator. But saying so, I need to protect my children also, for this is not a "God fearing" women that they reside with. I feel that I have a duty to my children to introduce and allow them to decide for themselves of what I have discovered through Islam and the way of life as a Muslim. If I do not pursue this in a court of law, my children may be lost to me forever. I do not wish to destroy their mother (she would gladly destroy me if possible) in a court of law with exposure to her tactics but I am torn here on a decision. My family are Christians and they will be very upset with me if I do not pursue legal action to reclaim my relationship with my children. As the Bible states "Turn the other cheek", sometimes I believe this to be a mistake. Is this woman (even though she is the mother of my children) considered my enemy in the scope of Islam and do I have a right under Islam to treat her as such to protect my children. Please know also that counciling has been tried already and she has thwarted this effort to gain a relationship with my children also. This is an extremely tough decision for me. I have asked Allah for guidence but I am not sure I understand the response that I received. The response came from a recent news letter that I actually received from Al- Mawrid the very next morning after I prayed the evening before for guidence, Your help would greatly be appreciated.

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Islamic Stance On Child Abuse

what does Islam says about Child Abuse? In culture in sub continent if a child doesn’t offer prayer or do something wrong, he/she is beaten up. To me this practice is wrong. Kindly, elaborate child sex abuse or child abuse in the light of the Qur’an and the authentic hadiths.

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Place Of Children In Congregational Prayer

What is the Shari’ah guidance regarding children in the mosques during prayers? We have been to Umrah twice in the last 18 months and no one asked our children to move to the back row during prayers in Makkah and Medinah. In Makkah we even were in the very first row or two and no one asked to move them. However back at our local mosque in USA and, in fact, in Karachi as well when I used to live there, Imam would ask the kids to move to the back line. He even stated that the Prayer will be invalidated if kids are in the front row with adults. Now this only happens whenever the Imam is of Indian or Pakistani origin. Arab imams will never ask the kids to move. My kids feel insulted when they are asked to move to the back. If you can guide me to a Quranic verse or a Haidth where this is mentioned as a requirement then I can explain to my children.

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Dilemma Of The Muslim Immigrants

I am an immigrant to USA who has settled here for the last thirty years. I have raised my family here. We were not the very strict family, but followed Islam in every way and raised our children, who were also good in understanding and following the religion. Since we were in a small town, the exposure to other good Muslim families was limited. Now that we have a larger Muslim group and have an Islamic Center, things are different. They have studied Islam and the Qur'an and completely understood that this is the right way.

But during this time the children have grown up and have left for colleges, out of town. It is there that we saw problems, and now it seems that the children have abandoned the religion and become openly agnostics. We are very much devastated by it and after trying hard through family, through talks, meetings with the imam, and with Islamic scholars, all attempts have failed. Right now all we have is prayers and hope for the mercy of Allah, that He shall guide these kids back. We have also informed them that the non-Muslim children are not part of the family and will be out of touch and on their own, in addition to disinherit them as well.
Now, we are looking for any help that will provide some guidance for us to redirect these unfortunate kids back to the religion and save them from the fire of Hell.
I am not sure, if this is what is written in the fate, or the effect of this society, pressures from the peers, or what, it may be that we kept them in strict control, and when they got out of the house, it happened. But whatever may be the reason, now we are faced with this situation, and seek help from your esteem resources.
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Dealing With Internal Family Issues

I have a big problem in my life and I cannot discuss it with anyone. I am 19 years old. I am confiding this to you because I have been assured that anything I tell you will not be displayed to anyone else. My father is in his 60s. He has a severe anger problem. Since childhood I have seen my father yell at my mother frequently just for minor things. He is very aggressive. Two years ago he got so angry that he even hit her. He hit her one day and the next day he promised that he would not do it again. This year in May he hit her again. I was having my final exams and so I was very depressed and because he had promised not to hit again so I got angry. I said a few things which I should not have. He hit her the next day too. The thing is that I have been having nightmares since then. I wake up in the middle of the night thinking that he hit her again. And then I cannot sleep. I am scared of my father. He is always angry. My head is hurting all the time. What do I need to do?

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Fostering Islamic Culture In Children

Guidance required on how to rear my child in pursuance of ways that inspire a child closer to Islamic Culture:

1. I have a six year old daughter. She is very fond of listening stories before she goes to sleep. In this regard my wife got some story books from the market. When I read some of those books I found that in the stories children are implicitly drawn into concepts such as dating which I deem very lethal for innocent children conscience. Can you please advise me some literature (publishing house/names of the books) specifically written for children in context of their upbringing in accordance with Islamic Tradition?

2- My second question is regarding general upbringing of children inline with Islamic tradition. What should I do in particular as a parent that would help me bring my child closer to Islam in a way that sounds appealing rather boring or compulsion to her?

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Rights Of Siblings

Duties and rights of a man towards his parents, wife and children are specifically spelled out in the Qur'an, Sunnah and Ahadith. Are there such specific instructions regarding spinster sisters in the absence of parents? The social norms and the call of conscience are well understood and appreciated.

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Making The Children Memorize The Qur’an

What is the right age for children to start learning the translation and tafseer of the Qur’an? We have some children here who have finished reciting the holy Qur’an with tajweed but they do not understand Arabic. They have started reading/memorizing word to word English translation of the Book. They are between the ages of 12 to 18. Kindly suggest if it is appropriate to put them on through this process at this age. How much of tafseer or explanation is beneficial for them?

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Ignoring Responsibilities Towards Children

What is the consequence of ignoring my responsibilities as a mother and abandoning looking after my children?

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بچوں کی تربیت

بچوں کی تربیت کے حوالے سے میرا نقطۂ نظر یہ ہے کہ پہلے بچوں کو انسانیت کے اہم اور بنیادی ضوابط سکھائے جائیں۔ جیسے سچ بولنا اور احترام وغیرہ تمام اخلاقیات۔ پھر جب وہ بڑے ہو رہے ہوں تو انھیں یہ بتایا جائے کہ دنیا میں بہت سے مذاہب ہیں ، تم ان میں سے کوئی بھی مذہب چن سکتے ہو ، مگر میں تمھاری ماں ایک مسلمان ہوں۔ میں نے تحقیق سے ان اسباب کے تحت اس دین کو چنا ہے۔
موجودہ حالات میں ہم مسلمان پیدا کر رہے ہیں، لیکن بچپن ہی میں ان کی برین واشنگ کر دیتے ہیں۔ وہ اسی کو سچ مانتے ہیں جس کے بارے میں ہم انھیں بتا دیتے ہیں کہ یہ سچ ہے۔ میں وہ مسلمان بنانا چاہتی ہوں جو اسلام کی صحیح روح سے آگاہ ہوں۔ پیدایشی طور پر نہیں ، بلکہ غوروفکر کے نتیجے میں۔ وہ اللہ تعالیٰ کواور اسلام کی سچائی کو اپنی تحقیق سے دریافت کریں۔ وہ ایسے روایتی مسلمان نہ ہوں جن کی برین واشنگ ہو چکی ہوتی ہے؟

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نو مولود کے کانوں میں اذان و اقامت کی شرعی حیثیت

دنیا بھر کے مسلم معاشروں میں بالعموم نومولود بچوں کے دائیں کان میں اذان اور بائیں میں اقامت کہی جاتی ہے۔ جسے ایک مشروع دینی عمل اور بچوں کی پیدایش کے موقع پر منجملہ اعمال مسنونہ قرار دیا جاتا ہے۔ معلوم یہ کرنا ہے کہ اِس عمل کی دینی حیثیت کیا ہے ؟ دین میں اِس کے ثبوت کا ماخذ کیا ہے؟ کیا محققانہ نقطۂ نگاہ سے یہ بات واقعتاً پایۂ ثبوت کو پہنچتی ہے کہ خود رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اِس عمل کو ایک شرعی حکم کے طور پر اپنے ماننے والوں میں جاری فرمایا ہے ؟ کیا اِس کی حیثیت نبی صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی جاری کردہ ایک متفق علیہ سنت کی ہے یا اِس کا ماخذ آپ سے مروی کوئی خبر واحد ہے ؟ اِس باب میں مروی اخبار آحاد کے بارے میں محقق رائے کیا ہے ؟ کیا دین میں اِس کی مشروعیت پر مسلمانوں کا اجماع ہے ؟ کیا تمام فقہا و محدثین اس کے حکم کے بارے میں باہم متفق ہیں یا اُن کے ما بین اِس مسئلے پر کچھ اختلافات بھی پائے جاتے ہیں؟

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Being with one’s family members in Paradise

I viewed a Q & A session of you in which you were asked if we would be with our same family (Parents, Wife etc) in life after in jannat. You replied that we would wake up with the same mentality/ character as this life and be with the same loved ones. In fact, If one of our relatives (Parents) are at a higher level in Janat, They will call us there too or if we are at a higher level of janat, We will call them there too. So apparently we can grow there. Weather we can or we can not grow, My question is that where did you get this understanding from that we can call our loved ones up the level and what reference of Quran you can quote for the defense.

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