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Age Of Aishah (rta) At The Time Of Her Marraige

I was listening to an audio lecture by Mr Ghamidi. In the question/answer session someone asked Mr Ghamidi about the age of Sayyida Aisha's at the time of her marriagewith the Prophet (sws). In his response Mr Ghamidi stated that there is a style in the Arabiclanguage according to which when she said 6 or 9 years, the 10 was already implied init. He mentioned that there are some narratives in which the dates oflaylatulqadr are mentioned and similarly, only 6, 7 or 9th day is mentioned eventhough the dates are 25, 27 etc. The 20 was implied.

I was wondering if it would be possible to get references of thosenarratives of laylatalqadr that be mentioned

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Marrying A Shi’i Woman

I am a sunni (hanafi) by default and not by choice or rationale. I have developed a liking for my cousin. She is shi’i. Before pursuing any formal legitimate relationship I researched the differences between the two denominations in detail. I concluded that the shi‘i and the sunni share the same basis of belief. It is only that some ahadith we accept and they reject. Contrarily, some other hadiths they accept which we reject. These differences have nothing to do with the religion itself. I seek your advice on that whether I should refrain pursuing my choice in front of my parents or take stand and try to convince them to help me. This may however, result in confrontation with my parents.

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Obligations To One’s Spouse And Parents

I have been married for over a year now and I am living with my husband’s parents and brother. Before I got married I had said to my husband that I didn’t mind living with them. However, the situation has changed. A few months after I got married, my mother in law began to change. She became very ungenerous to me. She would constantly pick on me. In fact she told me I was ugly, and I have heard her talking to her friends on the phone about how I am not good and girls nowadays are a letdown. Also every time my husband sits with her she tries to turn him against me, or will backbite about me. She tells him I can’t clean properly or other girls are better than me. I feel very hurt, and I have never answered back to her. But now I feel like it’s affecting my health. I am always stressed. I feel angry from the inside. Alhumdulillah my husband is great. He loves me very much and is very supportive. But what should I do?

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Sexual Relations With Minor Girls

Through various sources, I have deduced that sexual relations with very young girls is permitted in Islam. What I don't understand is that, this poses health risks to the woman as well as ethical concerns on whether or not it is acceptable for the girl. I realize that it is 'preferred' to consummate a marriage after the woman reaches puberty, but I have found no evidence forcing one to do so. Is there any known reason as to why young girls are not protected in this regard by Islam? It seems very contradicting to the religion. I realize that in the past, the age of consent was low and that older men were usually married to younger women, however, when it poses a health risk and such a blaring ethical concern, why is there no governing law against it in Islam?

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Marrying A Man Who Drinks And Disallows Hijab

I am a 37 year old divorced woman and I wear hijab. Can I marry a man who would not like me to do hijab and drinks a glass of wine once a month? He doesn’t get drunk.

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Age Of Hazrat Ayisha (rta) At The Time Of Marriage And Da’wah

How to answer non-Muslims about marriage of Prophet (sws) with Hazrat Aisha ? Is rajam (stoning) an Islamic punishment justified in this modern era? What should be the attitude of Muslims towards homosexuals in this western society, where they are accepted by law and community?

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Marrying A Woman Of Different Religion Denomination

I have a very personnel question regarding my marriage. I have promised a girl to marry her but her family members are very irrational (personal opinion) orthodox bralevi. On the other hand my family members are relatively rationale. My brother says that the girl must have the same belief as their parents. Till then I should not go ahead with this relation. Today I am in an ambivalent condition. If I get married to her I will lose the basic tradition of my family and its belief and of course it will set not a very good example for the next generation. On the other hand, if I withdraw from it I myself consider it very immoral and this will affect the life of the girl more than it can affect mine. Please guide me.

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Love Marriage In Islam

I am in love with a religious Muslim girl. I want to marry her. She is also in love with me. It is not just love but we understand each other very well. I am 24 years and she is also mature. I did my master in UK and I can understand my good and bad.

The problem is that my father does not agree with me in this matter. His reservations are that the girl is from out of the family. Her parents are also resisting. I like that girl because she is religious, truthful and has a good character. I believe I can find a girl more beautiful than her but not as religious and faithful. If I am not able to marry her I strongly believe that I would never be able to marry in my whole life.
I have been trying to persuade my father for the last two years. I know Islam does not stop me from marrying her. I need to know if a father has a right to suppress his children like me. I am so tense and frustrated thinking that the parents of that girl have a right to force her into marrying a boy which she does not like. This is injustice. I cannot accept this. Please help me in this regard.
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Relations With The Daughter Who Married A Christian

My daughter married a kitabi (Christian), against my and her father’s wishes. They have been married for five years now. I have a grandchild (one year old) by her and another baby girl is due this month. I was communicating with her up to the birth of her son a year ago. Then I stopped all interaction with her because I felt I had given her enough time to come to her senses. My husband and my eldest daughter also stopped talking to her shortly thereafter. I would like to ask if this is fair to my grandchildren, should I have contact with them? Even if not that often, maybe they should see their grandparents now and then? Am I committing a sin by seeing them? Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

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Marrying One’s Maternal Aunt

Can one marry the step sister of one’s mother? Suppose if the mother of a boy and his aunt share their father but not mothers. The girl is younger than the boy and both are in love. They do not know when it started as they were brought up in a same house and have been living together since childhood. They do not do anything wrong and just love each other. The boy feels that he is in very painful situation. If it is not permissible for him to marry his aunt then how can he stop himself from thinking about her in this way? How will he be able to live a good life according to Islam?

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Secret Marriages

I wanted to know the Islamic stance on court marriages and secret marriages. Besides, how would you comment on a marriage concluded:

1. with free mutual consent of both parties

2. in the presence of two male witnesses

3. by offer and acceptance BUT a. without the permission of Guardian and b. with the intention of keeping the marriage secret until the man becomes financially sound.

Please also note that both of the spouses keep their marriage secret because they cannot get married for 2 or 3 years and they often meet each other. So in order not to be sinful, they enter into nikah. Please be specific regarding the hukm (ruling) whether it is Halal, Haram, Batil, Fasid, Makrooh.

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Paying Zakah To Syeds

I would like to know the status of some beliefs about the Syeds especially in India and Pakistan. It is believed that they belong to the family of the Prophet Muḥammad (sws). Therefore Fire will not be permitted to touch them and they are not allowed to take charity. They normally don’t marry their daughter into a non-Syed family. There are other such concepts which I am not sure of. I fail to understand why a needy Syed should not be helped through zakah?

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Procedure Of Nikah

Why is the procedure of nikah not available on any Islamic site including yours? What is the procedure of nikah point by point in detail? Can a father offer nikah of her daughter instead of a religious cleric in the presence of nikah forms? Is it necessary to ask the bride and the groom verbally their consent in presence of participants? Is it important to announce the amount of mahr? Is it important to recite a few verses from Surah al-Nisaa? If yes then how many verses must be recited? If instead of Surah al-Nisaa some other part of the Book of God, for example Surah al-Fatihah is recited shall the nikah be valid? How did the Messenger of God (sws) conduct nikah of the Companions?

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Status Of Eunuchs

What is the status of eunuchs in the Islamic Shari‘ah. I mean if a eunuch wants to live in accordance with Islamic laws, what laws would apply to him: of men or of women? Moreover, should such a person live a whole life of sexual abstinence? If so, would it not be the toughest test given to a human being? Don’t you think, in most of such cases, the person might become faithless? Please place yourself in the position of such a person and suggest what should be the way to guide such people towards Islam.

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Marrying A Hindu Girl

I wanted to know do Islamic teachings allow a Muslim to marry a Hindu girl? If so then what is the reason of this permission and if does not then why?

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Sexual Intimacy Prior To Rukhsati

Please allow me to say that your website has been very helpful to me as there are a lot of things regarding Islam that I don’t know. I am facing a serious problem and am sure you can shed some light on the matter according to Islamic principles. I have had my nikah. Due to some financial reasons my ‘rukhsati’ (shifting to my husband’s house) cannot take place till the end of next year. My husband wants to have a marital relationship with me now. At first, I refused but then he got very angry at me and said that we are after all married according to the command of Allah and not committing a sin so I obliged him knowing that Allah had told wives to obey their husbands. We did not have sex and I am still a virgin but to an extent we did things that only married people would do. Someone told me that it was illegal to indulge in such an act prior to shifting to the house of the husband. If I do not oblige my husband, he gets offended and I have the threat that he will go to some other woman. So please tell me if it is wrong or not? I intend to be a virgin till I shift with him. If it is wrong, then what should I do about my husband’s anger because he insists?

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Relationships By Fosterage

I would like to ask about the fosterage relationship. I want to marry my cousin but my mother told me that she had fed once her milk up to two sips while she was weeping bitterly. This she did without the permission of my cousin's mother. I want to know that does it entail fosterage relationship between us. I asked this question from many religious scholars and muftis. They all told me that I cannot marry her. I was not satisfied by their reply. Then I studied Tafsir of Ibn. Kathir and Sahih of Muslim. I found that that the fosterage relationship is entailed by at least one and maximum 5 times feeding and the feeding should be enough to fill the belly of the baby. The relevant hadith has been ascribed to Hazrat Aishah (rta). Please comment.

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Can A Woman Change Her Last Name After Marriage?

Is changing the last name (or surname) by a woman after marriage to her husband's last name (or first/surname) unislamic? My wife wants to change her last name to my first name. I have come across few descriptions online where Qur’anic verses have been quoted and such change is deemed 'haram'. One such reference is:

Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah. (al-Ahzaab 33:5]
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Whoever calls himself by other than his father’s name (or attributes himself to someone other than his father), will be cursed by Allah, the angels and all the people. (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 2599;
It should be made clear that my wife\'s current last name is NOT her father's name. Any light on this matter, which is extremely common and not widely discussed, will be highly appreciated.
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Consummation Of Marriage Before Payment Of Mahr

Can a man have sexual relationship with his wife without paying mahr? What is mahr-i-mu’ajjal and ghayr muajjal? I have recently entered into nikāḥ with a girl but she has not moved with me: rukhsati has not yet been done. I want to talk to her freely and discuss with her every matter of life but I am not sure I should do so because I have not paid her mahr completely. About one fourth has been paid as jewellery on the day nikāḥ was contracted and the rest is payable. Kindly tell me what is mu’ajjal and ghayr muajjal mahr? And can I talk to her freely? Can I have sexual relationship with her?

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Predetermination And The Right To Choose A Partner

I am Naveed Ahmed Nizamani. I am a student. I most often watch your program "GHAMIDI" cordially. I have a question for you. So many people usually make a discussion on "destiny". People say that couples have already been predetermined by God. And people have no authority on their children to get them married by their own choice. Do I have authority to make a decision for my couple or has it already been decided by God? Does Allah have authority to make couples for the people?

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