Marrying Ex-Wife Of Adopted Son

We know that the Prophet (pbuh) married the ex-wife of his adopted son. What I fail to understand is whether it would look ethical to marry my adopted son's wife? There must be hundreds of ladies at that time then why did the Prophet [pbuh] choose her?

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Polygamy In The Paradise

I am happily married and am living with my wife. We love each other. We strive to fulfill all our religious obligations and pray to God to grant us His mercy and success in the afterlife. One thing that disturbs us is that I do not feel it easy to have more wives in the afterlife. I would rather live with my present wife if God Almighty so willed. I wanted to ask will I have to keep more wives or my desire to live my present wife only will be granted.

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Many Wives In Paradise

I have a question regarding the surah "Smoke". Something disturbed me and I thought I really ought to seek clarification:

Within the last few lines of the surah a reference is made to how those who attain Paradise will be paired off with a "beautiful woman". My husband explains every man is married off to this beautiful woman upon entering Paradise as an "additional reward" - and this woman is in addition to his collecting his "earthly" wife as well, should she also attain Paradise.

This seems a little odd to me. I know we should not question God's Word, and I know feelings such as jealousy and insecurity shouldn't exist in Heaven. However, why is it that a woman would work and focus so hard on attaining Paradise in the afterlife and in addition to the toil and effort of this life, be granted Paradise by God's mercy only then to see her husband paired off with additional women as though he could have fared without his initial wife entirely, forever? I had always thought if both spouses made it to Heaven, then they we there together, just the two, with their family forever. Regardless, I know the Hellfire is no option, no matter what.

Is it blasphemous of me to even question this? I guess I couldn't bear the idea of my husband being with another woman even in Paradise.

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Second Marriage And Permission Of The First Wife

A husband asks his wife to permit him to marry another woman. She refuses to permit him would. He has the financial resources to take care of both her wifes. What does Islam say about the woman?

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Dealing With A Husband Who Cheated

I hope this finds you well in spirit and in health. My question is a bit compplex and I apologize if it is hard to follow. I have been married for almost eleven months. I love my husband very much. But he lied to me about a major issue. When we married he assured me that he was divorced. Soon after the marraige he told me that in fact he wasn’t divorced and that she is living with his kids in his country. I am an American woman and I grew up christian. I know that it is halal for a muslim man to have up to 4 wives, however I have always known that I just couldn’t handle that situation for myself. I cannot share my man. I do not know what this means about me; I dont know if it makes me weak. I simply know that it is killing me inside. I LOVE ALLAH and I love my deen. I want to be as pious as possible. I pray about this all the time. BUT it is not getting better, infact it is getting worse. I dont know if I should stay in the marriage. Please help me.

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72 Hoors To A Single Believer

What is the concept of 72 hoors (women in heaven/jannah) in Islam? What is your understanding about having sexual relations with those 72 women?

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Purpose Of Human Life

I am a student of physics at the University of Vienna. As you know that in the West there is a misunderstanding about the Islamic teachings and practices, which puts a common Muslim in conflict with his religion. Therefore my question to you is: why we are meant to go to Paradise or Hell after the death. Is the existence of Paradise and Hell only a projection and excuse of the human mind to make this world seem less important? For instance we are promised to get 70 Virgins and alcohol in Paradise and in this world we have to stay away from prohibited sexual relations and alcohol. Is it not a kind of double standard? Why does someone for example an atheist, a man who does not believe in God or at least in a personal god must go to Hell? Does my life only means only to go to Hell or Paradise after death? What do you think of Karl Marx who said “Religion is only an opium of the people". I would be very pleased and thankful to you for your guidance.

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Permission Of Polygamy

The verse in Sura al-Nisa mentioning the four marriages, mentions the orphans initially. These verses were revealed after the battle of Uhud concerning the widows and orphans of the martyrs. Does this in itself not precondition the permission of polygamy to the widows and orphans?

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Polygamy

My understanding of Islam is that polygamy is permitted only under certain conditions, such as marrying a widow who has children. Please explain. I read this in the Quran.

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دوسری شادی

تعدد ازواج سے متعلق میں چند سوال عرض کرنا چاہتا ہوں۔ میرا پہلا سوال سورہ نساء کی آیات ۳۔۴ سے متعلق ہے۔ جاوید احمد غامدی صاحب اور امین احسن اصلاحی صاحب نے مذکورہ آیات کے ترجمہ میں لفظ "ان کی مائیں" شامل کیا ہے جب کہ باقی مترجمین و مفسرین کے متراجم میں دوسری عورتیں کہا گیا ہے۔ وضاحت فرمائیں۔

اسی ضمن میں میرا دوسرا سوال یہ ہے کہ کیا کوئی شخص صرف اس بنیاد پر دوسری شادی کر سکتا ہے کہ وہ کسی دوسری عورت سے محبت کرتا ہے؟یا اگر وہ اچھی خاصی مالیت رکھتا ہو تو اس بنیاد پر وہ دوسری شادی کر سکتا ہے یہ سوچ کر کہ وہ دونوں بیویوں کا حق آسانی سے ادا کر سکتا ہے؟

نمبر ۳ یہ کہ میں نے غامدی صاحب کو یہ کہتے ہوئے سنا ہے کہ نبی صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے تنوع کے لیے دوسری بیوی رکھنے سے منع فرمایا ہے۔ یہاں لفظ "تنوع" سے کیا مراد ہے؟ اور ساتھ میں اس حدیث کا بھی حوالہ دیا جائے جس میں یہ بات فرمائی گئی ہے۔

نمبر ۴ یہ کہ اگر کسی شخص کی پہلی بیوی اور بچے اس کی دوسری شادی کے خلاف ہوں، تو کیا پھر بھی اس شخص کو، جیسے کہ قرآن میں رہنمائی فرمائی گئی ہے اس کے مطابق دوسری شادی کر لینی چاہیے؟ آپ کی اس بارے میں ذاتی رائے کیا ہے؟

نمبر ۵ یہ کہ انسان اپنی پہلی بیوی اور بچوں کو اس معاملے کی پیچیدگی کو سمجھانے کے لیے کیا اقدامات کرے۔ برائے مہربانی رہنمائی فرمائیے۔

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فانکحوا ما طاب لکم من النساء(نساء4: 3) میں “النساء” سے مراد

میرا سوال سورۂ نساء کی آیت نمبر 3 کے اُس ترجمے سے متعلق ہے ، جو محترم جاوید احمد غامدی صاحب نے اپنی کتاب ’قانونِ معاشرت‘ میں کیا ہے۔ جاوید صاحب نے یہ ترجمہ کیا ہے کہ ۔’’یتیموں کی ماؤں سے نکاح کر لو‘‘ میں نے تین چار دوسرے مترجمین کا ترجمہ دیکھا تو اُن سب نے تقریباً یہ ترجمہ کیا ہے کہ ’’جو عورتیں تمہیں پسند آئیں ، اُن سے نکاح کر لو‘‘۔ جاوید صاحب نے عورتوں کے لفظ کو چھوڑ کر جو یتیموں کی ماؤں کو جو لفظ استعمال کیا ہے اُس نے مجھے کافی Confused کر دیا ہے۔ لہٰذا آپ براہِ مہربانی ا س کی وضاحت کر دیں تاکہ میں آئندہ بھی غامدی صاحب کی تحریروں کو بغیر کسی شک و شبہ کے دیکھتا رہوں ؟

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