Forcing The Wife To Work

I am a working woman having three children under age of 8 years. I started my job a year before. This is customer service job so carrying a lot of pressure and stress. Working hours are very long, more than 10 hours a day. So you can imagine that with three children and full time job, life is not much easy. I would like to clear that to start the job was not my decision. I had been forced by my husband to do something to help him in economics. I realized the situation and started the job. Now with the passage of time I started noticing that my husband takes me for granted. He is not interested in fulfilling my needs. Even I don't have freedom to spend my earnings and most of the time I am accountable for that. He is not even willing to listen that sometimes I can be tired, or sad. He doesn't think about some recreation or entertainment together. We hardly go out for something. Even then I don’t feel comfortable and relaxed because of his behavior, I can't buy anything for myself until he permits me to do so. I feel that he has double standards for me and for himself. I feel that I am over worked and over stressed. He doesn't understand my situation and is focused only on his goals like good education for children and some savings. I too concerned about the future but it doesn't mean that I should forget about the present. I tried hard to make him understand about my needs and desires but he just ignores it. I want to know that in the light of Islam that what my actual rights are on my husband and what are his rights towards me.

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Rights Of Siblings

Duties and rights of a man towards his parents, wife and children are specifically spelled out in the Qur'an, Sunnah and Ahadith. Are there such specific instructions regarding spinster sisters in the absence of parents? The social norms and the call of conscience are well understood and appreciated.

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Rights Of Wives

We know that if a woman refuses her husband to bed, the angels curse her till dawn. What if the husband refuses his wife? Does she have rights over her husband?

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Ignoring The Rights Of The Fellow Humans

I live in an apartment in which every flat contributes a fix amount that enable the building union to pay salaries of six watchmen, a sweeper, a plumber, an electrician, a lift mechanic and office in charge. Union also pay expenses of maintaining lifts for residents, providing twenty-four hours water supply, electricity arrangements in the corridors, daily cleaning and all other matters. There are some residents who do not pay this contribution while a large number pay it assuming their responsibility. Members of the union do all this without taking any benefits or any money from the contribution they do just to please Allah Rab-ul-Izzat and well being of their neighbours. Are the people who are not paying comes under violation of Huquq-ul-Ibad in which one is not paying but enjoying all the benefits at the cost of other residents? If no, what is the Islamic preaching in this special scenario for the ones paying and those not paying?

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Duty To Parents And Family

My parents back in Pakistan, after the marriage of my sisters, are on their own now. I live in America with both my wife and a son. Recently, I have decided to move back to Pakistan to better serve my parents. I also wish to raise my family in a country where I have a sense of religious and cultural belonging. All my Pakistani friends are discouraging me to move, but I have been ignoring them so far. Political situation in Pakistan is going from bad to worse. There is fear in the heart and logical reasoning in the mind. I feel that I am risking the lives of both my wife and my son for the duty towards my parents. Sometimes, I think of moving to a modern Islamic country such as Malaysia and bringing my parents there. But I know that my parents, at this stage of their lives, would not be able to assimilate to the norms of a new country and therefore, would mentally suffer. I am a man of justice. Please help me do justice with both my family and my parents simultaneously. Should I move to Pakistan or help my parents move to Malaysia where I could serve them while providing due care to both my wife and son.

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Ignoring Responsibilities Towards Children

What is the consequence of ignoring my responsibilities as a mother and abandoning looking after my children?

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Belligerence Of Muslim Minorities

I am living in the US for the last two decades. I want to know the rights and duties Islam imposes on me. What should I do if I am asked by the government to do something that is against Islam? Also am I not required by Islam to strive and wage Jihad, if required, to establish an Islamic state wherever I live? I have been told that this is my religious obligation.

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معاشی ذمہ دارياں اور والدين كے حقوق

جناب میں ایک عجیب مشکل میں ہوں۔ ہم دو بھائی ہیں۔ میرے بڑے بھائی کے بچے نہیں ہیں۔ میری ایک سال پہلے شادی ہوئی ہے۔ اور مجھے اللہ تعالٰی نے ایک بیٹا دیا ہے۔ میری مشکل یہ ہے کہ آج کل تنخوا ه میں گزارا مشکل سے ہوتا ہے جبکہ میری اچھی خاصی تنخواہ ہے۔ مگر فیوچر میں جس طرح مہنگائی بڑھ رہی ہے تو میں باہر کسی ملک میں جا کر سیٹل ہونا چاہتا ہوں۔مسئلہ یہ ہے کہ میں اپنے بہتر مستقبل کے لیے اپنی بیوی اور بچے کو ساتھ لے کر جاؤں یا اپنے والدین ، جن کو ابھی ابھی میرے بیٹے کا سکھ ملا ہے ، کا خیال رکھوں؟ اب نہ باہر جانے کو دِل کرتا ہے نہ میں یہ سمجھتا ہوں کہ اس مہنگائی میں یہاں رہ کر میں اپنے والدین اور بیوی بچوں کی ذمہ داری ٹھیک طرح پوری کر سکوں گا۔ برائے مہربانی اس معاملے میں میری رہنمائی کیجیے۔

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