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New Year Celebrations

One of my friends shared a post on face book which suggest that celebrating new year is prohibited in Islam. In support of this argument follwoing Hadith is qouted:

The Prophet (sws) arrived in Madeenah while people were celebrating two particular festivals, so He (sws) asked: What is (the significance of) these two days? Some people replied: They are days which we used to celebrate during the pre-Islamic era. So the Messenger (PBUH) replied: ALLAH has replaced them for you with two days which are better, the day of Eed Al-Fitr and Eed Al-Adhhaa. [Abu Daawood].

Would you please clarify this matter?

Answer:

The Eids which the people of Madinah were celebrating before Islam were religious festivals. Islam also introduced and established two religious festivals. New year celebrations are not religious celebrations. They are social festivals. Therefore, we do not believe there is any connection between the example given and the new year celebrations.



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Execution Of Divorce

Is mere thought of mind enough for a divorce to occur or you need to say the words verbally?

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Merely thinking over the question whether to divorce the wife or not and even making up the mind does not mean that the divorce has taken place. It is only through the verbal or written execution of the decision that is effective. Decision in legal and social issues and dealings are not binding unless a contract has been made in written or verbal declaration.



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Syed Women Marrying A Non-Syed

I want to ask, whether it is prohibited in Islam for a Sayed Girl to get married with a Non-Sayed Male.I also want to know the stance of Shi’i scholars on the same topic

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It is absolutely fine for a Sayyed and non-Sayyed to marry each other and there is no difference of opinion about this in between the Shia and non-Shia scholars. We do not need evidence from the sources of Islam to prove something is allowed. It is only when proving something is forbidden that we need proof.The idea of marriage between Sayyed and non-Sayyed being forbidden or disliked is rooted in tribal cultures and can be…

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Implied And Explicit Divorce

I have a couple of questions regarding divorce. a) Is the use of words "I divorce you" necessary for a divorce to occur, or any other words like "you are free" can also have the same effect. b) I was talking to my wife on phone and to conclude the discussion, I said "Ok so now u are free" (Ab aap aazad hain) "You can do whatever you want to do". It was never in my thoughts that I am divorcing her. But immediately after saying these words to her, I thought may be these words have the affect of divorce? c) Is intention important for divorce or using any of these words without intention can also cause divorce?

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Thank you for writing to us. Divorce is pronounced using the conventional wording. In certain cases the words you have used can also imply divorce. However, it is the textual and contextual indicators which determine whether you intended divorce or not. Since the context in which you used the words ‘you are free’ makes it clear that you never intended divorce you do not need to worry about it.



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Punishment For Incest

What is the punishment in Islam, if a unmarried brother had sex with unmarried sister, who born to one parents?

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Islam does not allow Incest (http://www.understanding-islam.com/related/text.asp?type=question&qid=2496) or marrying relations like mothers, sisters.

The Qur’an says:

Forbidden unto you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and your father's sisters, and your mother's sisters, and your brother's daughters and your sister's daughters,- - - - - - (4:23)

Once it is established that you cannot marry these relations because of the sanctity of this relationship then violating this sanctity through…

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Renewal Of Nikah

I had a Nikah read 6 years ago but since my husband' parents were against it we never told them. They have now agreed; can we read our Nikah again infront of my husband's parents. If they find out the truth they will disown us, and probably not accept me.

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I understand that you married a person with consent of your parents and against the will of the parents of your husband who do not know anything regarding this matter due to their being away or because of your keeping the relationship secret. If you have kept the nikah secret from the society of which the parents of your husband are part then you have indeed transgressed the Shariah laws which requires that the Nikha…

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I Want To Marry A Muslim

I am very much in love with a Muslim boy and he is with me. My family doesn't necessarily agree with this because of our different religions. He tells me that his parents would not mind but I think different because in one year I have never met them and it is like he is trying to hide me away. Could you please advise.

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Islam has left an individual to enter into the marital contract on his own choice. In fact the free will of both the parties is an essential pre-requisite for the legitimacy of such a contract. Parents cannot basically hinder their children from choosing a partner whom they consider an appropriate match for them. A Muslim male can marry women of the People of the Book ie Jews and Christians, though preferably in areas where Islam…

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Betrayal

I was engaged to someone. Later on he told me that he wanted to marry me just because I was a nice practicing Muslim girl. He lied to me, cheated on me, broke my heart and left me alone. I feel so cheated and betrayed. His betrayal is killing me every second. I feel so deceived. I am in so much pain. I am praying so much to Allah so that He will set me free from this pain and sorrow. Is there any special dua to remove pain and sorrow which would harden my heart? I feel so deceived. I can’t take this suffering anymore.

Answer:

I am really very sorry to hear your plight. It is not expected from a man of good moral character to cheat others no mention of such near relations. You have sought right path. Continue praying to the Almighty to grant you ease and make this man amend for his past behavior and treat you fairly. God can do anything and we must not lose hope and should keep trying to change the circumstances and…

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Choosing Life Partner

I would like to know what exactly the Quran and the Ḥadīth say about what a woman should look for in a man for marriage and vice-versa, what a man should look for in a woman when considering her for marriage.

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In addition to the common natural things that we usually consider, one should always consider the religiosity of the proposed match. A pious partner is sure to help us live the life of piety and create an atmosphere for the offspring and us conducive for the purpose. Another important thing, though people usually consider this, I would like to point out is that we should also see the chances of harmonious relationship between the two.…

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Iddah For A Pregnant Widow

If an established pregnant women becomes widow, must she observe Iddat of 4 months and 10 days (or whatever it is) before marrying someone else? Her pregnancy is established beyond any doubt visibly, medically (X-rays, Ultra sound, MRI etc.). There will be no doubt that the child she will bear will be from her previous husband. The new husband knows it and is willingly to marry her. Must the widow complete her Iddat period before marrying this man?

Please do not treat the query just perfunctorily. I have given this problem lots and lots of thought. You must also think and ponder over the reasons for ordaining Iddat period, and if the reason is to establish the lineage of the child to come, then in this case it is already established. Hypothetically, the circumstances of the widow are such that there is no one to support her. She doesn't have a home to live in. No money to eat or buy medicine or sustain her. She needs immediate support and help. If she waits for 4 months and 10 days, she will die or the child inside the womb will perish, etc. etc. (Please do not quote, "everything is halal if it can save your life. That doesn't apply here in this case)

In another situation, suppose after 4 months and 10 days it becomes obvious that she is pregnant. Can she marry now immediately after completion of the Iddat period?

And my last question is. Why Iddat was not observed by early Companions? I do not want to go in to details, Khalid bin Walid marrying Laila Malik is one such case in question?

Answer:

Since the woman is pregnant then her Iddah period as ordained by the Almighty extends to the birth of the child. Thus such a woman may need to observe the iddah period as long as nine months, if her husband has died right after the conception of the baby, and may be reduced to some days if he has died in the last days of pregnancy. Since she is forced to observe a long period…

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Marrying Ex-Mother In-law

In eyes of Shari`ah can man marry his mother in law after divorcing his wife?

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According to the Islamic Shari`ah one is not allowed to marry his mother in law even after the death of one’s spouse or after the severing the marriage contract.

The Qur’an says:

And marry not women whom your fathers married – except what has been done in the past: it was shameful and odious – an abominable practice indeed. Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, daughters, sisters, your maternal and paternal aunts, the daughters of…

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Lesbianism

Can you please throw some light whether lesbian relationships are prohibited in Islam. Is it a sin and if yes, what is the punishment. Islam has clearly forbidden sex between two men but I could not find anything about lesbian relationship in the Quran.

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The Almighty has not provided His guidance through the Qur'an only. Guidance ordained in human nature and guidance obtained through universal moral principles also need to be heeded to. Lesbianism is obviously one of the practices whose abomination is ingrained in us. Only women whose nature have become perverted indulge in it. The fact that this is against universal moral principles is evident from the fact that barring a very very small minority, a vast…

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Interaction With The fiancé

I am engaged with one of my cousins. We are engaged for three years. Her parents do not allow her to talk freely with me since I have been engaged. They say that it is our tradition that engaged couple do not talk and meet freely with each other before their marriage. Her parents and her brothers strictly follow this tradition. I am against this tradition. We love each other and most important thing is that we are engaged. Why not then we talk and meet freely with each other. I want to ask you that what is perception of our religion in this context. Are we allowed to talk and meet freely from Islamic laws point of view?

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Islam has never restricted the believers from entering into meaningful conversation between two unrelated members of opposite sex. It does not make any difference whether they are married, betrothed or not. The only thing one needs to observe is that they must not indulge in useless talk and give Satan an opportunity to spoil their inner purification. A woman may talk to her fiancé, colleagues at work, teachers, students and other people with whom…

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Sex Before Marriage

I am asking this question on behalf of one of my agnostic friends. My friend believes that having sex before the marriage is not a big issue. She thinks that it is actually healthy to have sex before marriage as it helps you understand the other person not only emotionally but also physically. At the same time, according to her, it does not impact the family system, as we cannot say that in a society where the sex is prevalent has more divorces than the one without it. She thinks that sex is a natural need of human beings and since nowadays marriages are late, there is no harm if a person has sex before marriage. Can you please help me make her understand why it is not good for society, that person and the institution of family to allow sex before marriage? I will be grateful for your answer.

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I think It is too simplistic if we consider the two factors of 'divorce rate' and 'knowing the person better' as the only important factors and then without any reliance on any statistics about these factors decide whether something is good or not.

Arguments can be made for both sides. With the lack of proper statistics it is impossible to come up with any conclusions about the actual effects of sex or no sex before marriage…

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Marrying Wife’s Sister

Please clarify in detail with reference to the Qur'an & Hadith, if it is allowed to marry wife's own sister keeping the wife in marriage as it is? Please also explain the rationale & logic of the instruction associated.

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The Holy Qur'an has explicitly prohibited marrying two sisters at a time. The Almighty says:

You are prohibited to marry your mothers, daughters, sisters, paternal aunts, maternal aunts, daughters of your brothers and sisters, your forester mothers and sisters, mothers of your wives, your step daughters raised under you born of your wives with you have lain- if you have not lain with their mothers then marrying them incurs no sin - wives of your…

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Wazifahs For Daughters’ Marriage

Could you please suggest some tasbeehaat to help get my daughters married. Two of my daughters are in their mid twenties. Please also mention the timings or the recitation of these tasbeehaat and any precautions attached to that.

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We believe there are no such tasbeehaat which can be chanted for the purpose. The only way to achieve the target is to pray to God Almighty. The best way to ask God is to pray after obligatory and supererogatory prayers. You and the mother of the girls should also pray to God for them. Also important is to use all worldly means you have in your access to get appropriate match for them. I…

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Marrying Ex-Wife Of Adopted Son

We know that the Prophet (pbuh) married the ex-wife of his adopted son. What I fail to understand is whether it would look ethical to marry my adopted son's wife? There must be hundreds of ladies at that time then why did the Prophet [pbuh] choose her?

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According to the Qur'an the real son is the biological son. Adopted son is not real son. The Qur'an condemned the pre-Islamic concept that the adopted son is just like real son. The people of Pre-Islamic Arabia did not approve of marrying the ex-wives of the adopted sons. The Qur'an corrected this concept. Now we believe that the social construct like the one you are presenting as ethical is not based on moral principles and…

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Marrying Ex-Wife Of Adopted Son

We know that the Prophet (pbuh) married the ex-wife of his adopted son. What I fail to understand is whether it would look ethical to marry my adopted son's wife? There must be hundreds of ladies at that time then why did the Prophet [pbuh] choose her?

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According to the Qur'an the real son is the biological son. Adopted son is not real son. The Qur'an condemned the pre-Islamic concept that the adopted son is just like real son. The people of Pre-Islamic Arabia did not approve of marrying the ex-wives of the adopted sons. The Qur'an corrected this concept. Now we believe that the social construct like the one you are presenting as ethical is not based on moral principles and…

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Pornography

What is your viewpoint on adult issues, like pornography? Do you recommend any remedy for its addicts?

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Four our viewpoint on the issue please refer to: Why can’t Adults view Pornography?

I hope this helps. If anything remains unanswered please feel free to write back.



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Marrying A HIV Patient

I have a following two questions which are connected.

1- Is it halal for a Muslim man or women to marry a Muslim man or women with HIV positive? My reason for asking is that the one who is HIV negative is putting his/her into danger of getting that HIV because as per my understanding Islam doesn't encourage to hurt yourself. There can be some Muslim man/women who did something bad and now they have asked Allah for forgiveness.

2- Is it alright to help some HIV positive male/female in finding life partner. I think answer of this will depend on first one. I am talking about those HIV positive who wants to come back in normal life and forget about their mistakes and they have asked Allah for forgiveness.

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First, as I understand it, we cannot assume that every HIV positive person has got HIV as the result of doing something that was religiously forbidden.

Second, we should not do anything with the intention of harming ourselves. Marrying an HIV positive may make the person exposed to the risk of getting HIV, but this does not mean that the person had intention of harming himself.

Therefore my answer to both your questions is Yes. As for…

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