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Renewal Of Nikah

I had a Nikah read 6 years ago but since my husband' parents were against it we never told them. They have now agreed; can we read our Nikah again infront of my husband's parents. If they find out the truth they will disown us, and probably not accept me.

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I understand that you married a person with consent of your parents and against the will of the parents of your husband who do not know anything regarding this matter due to their being away or because of your keeping the relationship secret. If you have kept the nikah secret from the society of which the parents of your husband are part then you have indeed transgressed the Shariah laws which requires that the Nikha…

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I Want To Marry A Muslim

I am very much in love with a Muslim boy and he is with me. My family doesn't necessarily agree with this because of our different religions. He tells me that his parents would not mind but I think different because in one year I have never met them and it is like he is trying to hide me away. Could you please advise.

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Islam has left an individual to enter into the marital contract on his own choice. In fact the free will of both the parties is an essential pre-requisite for the legitimacy of such a contract. Parents cannot basically hinder their children from choosing a partner whom they consider an appropriate match for them. A Muslim male can marry women of the People of the Book ie Jews and Christians, though preferably in areas where Islam…

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Betrayal

I was engaged to someone. Later on he told me that he wanted to marry me just because I was a nice practicing Muslim girl. He lied to me, cheated on me, broke my heart and left me alone. I feel so cheated and betrayed. His betrayal is killing me every second. I feel so deceived. I am in so much pain. I am praying so much to Allah so that He will set me free from this pain and sorrow. Is there any special dua to remove pain and sorrow which would harden my heart? I feel so deceived. I can’t take this suffering anymore.

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I am really very sorry to hear your plight. It is not expected from a man of good moral character to cheat others no mention of such near relations. You have sought right path. Continue praying to the Almighty to grant you ease and make this man amend for his past behavior and treat you fairly. God can do anything and we must not lose hope and should keep trying to change the circumstances and…

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Choosing Life Partner

I would like to know what exactly the Quran and the Ḥadīth say about what a woman should look for in a man for marriage and vice-versa, what a man should look for in a woman when considering her for marriage.

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In addition to the common natural things that we usually consider, one should always consider the religiosity of the proposed match. A pious partner is sure to help us live the life of piety and create an atmosphere for the offspring and us conducive for the purpose. Another important thing, though people usually consider this, I would like to point out is that we should also see the chances of harmonious relationship between the two.…

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Iddah For A Pregnant Widow

If an established pregnant women becomes widow, must she observe Iddat of 4 months and 10 days (or whatever it is) before marrying someone else? Her pregnancy is established beyond any doubt visibly, medically (X-rays, Ultra sound, MRI etc.). There will be no doubt that the child she will bear will be from her previous husband. The new husband knows it and is willingly to marry her. Must the widow complete her Iddat period before marrying this man?

Please do not treat the query just perfunctorily. I have given this problem lots and lots of thought. You must also think and ponder over the reasons for ordaining Iddat period, and if the reason is to establish the lineage of the child to come, then in this case it is already established. Hypothetically, the circumstances of the widow are such that there is no one to support her. She doesn't have a home to live in. No money to eat or buy medicine or sustain her. She needs immediate support and help. If she waits for 4 months and 10 days, she will die or the child inside the womb will perish, etc. etc. (Please do not quote, "everything is halal if it can save your life. That doesn't apply here in this case)

In another situation, suppose after 4 months and 10 days it becomes obvious that she is pregnant. Can she marry now immediately after completion of the Iddat period?

And my last question is. Why Iddat was not observed by early Companions? I do not want to go in to details, Khalid bin Walid marrying Laila Malik is one such case in question?

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Since the woman is pregnant then her Iddah period as ordained by the Almighty extends to the birth of the child. Thus such a woman may need to observe the iddah period as long as nine months, if her husband has died right after the conception of the baby, and may be reduced to some days if he has died in the last days of pregnancy. Since she is forced to observe a long period…

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Marrying Ex-Mother In-law

In eyes of Shari`ah can man marry his mother in law after divorcing his wife?

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According to the Islamic Shari`ah one is not allowed to marry his mother in law even after the death of one’s spouse or after the severing the marriage contract.

The Qur’an says:

And marry not women whom your fathers married – except what has been done in the past: it was shameful and odious – an abominable practice indeed. Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, daughters, sisters, your maternal and paternal aunts, the daughters of…

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Lesbianism

Can you please throw some light whether lesbian relationships are prohibited in Islam. Is it a sin and if yes, what is the punishment. Islam has clearly forbidden sex between two men but I could not find anything about lesbian relationship in the Quran.

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The Almighty has not provided His guidance through the Qur'an only. Guidance ordained in human nature and guidance obtained through universal moral principles also need to be heeded to. Lesbianism is obviously one of the practices whose abomination is ingrained in us. Only women whose nature have become perverted indulge in it. The fact that this is against universal moral principles is evident from the fact that barring a very very small minority, a vast…

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Interaction With The fiancé

I am engaged with one of my cousins. We are engaged for three years. Her parents do not allow her to talk freely with me since I have been engaged. They say that it is our tradition that engaged couple do not talk and meet freely with each other before their marriage. Her parents and her brothers strictly follow this tradition. I am against this tradition. We love each other and most important thing is that we are engaged. Why not then we talk and meet freely with each other. I want to ask you that what is perception of our religion in this context. Are we allowed to talk and meet freely from Islamic laws point of view?

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Islam has never restricted the believers from entering into meaningful conversation between two unrelated members of opposite sex. It does not make any difference whether they are married, betrothed or not. The only thing one needs to observe is that they must not indulge in useless talk and give Satan an opportunity to spoil their inner purification. A woman may talk to her fiancé, colleagues at work, teachers, students and other people with whom…

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Marrying Wife’s Sister

Please clarify in detail with reference to the Qur'an & Hadith, if it is allowed to marry wife's own sister keeping the wife in marriage as it is? Please also explain the rationale & logic of the instruction associated.

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The Holy Qur'an has explicitly prohibited marrying two sisters at a time. The Almighty says:

You are prohibited to marry your mothers, daughters, sisters, paternal aunts, maternal aunts, daughters of your brothers and sisters, your forester mothers and sisters, mothers of your wives, your step daughters raised under you born of your wives with you have lain- if you have not lain with their mothers then marrying them incurs no sin - wives of your…

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Wazifahs For Daughters’ Marriage

Could you please suggest some tasbeehaat to help get my daughters married. Two of my daughters are in their mid twenties. Please also mention the timings or the recitation of these tasbeehaat and any precautions attached to that.

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We believe there are no such tasbeehaat which can be chanted for the purpose. The only way to achieve the target is to pray to God Almighty. The best way to ask God is to pray after obligatory and supererogatory prayers. You and the mother of the girls should also pray to God for them. Also important is to use all worldly means you have in your access to get appropriate match for them. I…

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Marrying Ex-Wife Of Adopted Son

We know that the Prophet (pbuh) married the ex-wife of his adopted son. What I fail to understand is whether it would look ethical to marry my adopted son's wife? There must be hundreds of ladies at that time then why did the Prophet [pbuh] choose her?

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According to the Qur'an the real son is the biological son. Adopted son is not real son. The Qur'an condemned the pre-Islamic concept that the adopted son is just like real son. The people of Pre-Islamic Arabia did not approve of marrying the ex-wives of the adopted sons. The Qur'an corrected this concept. Now we believe that the social construct like the one you are presenting as ethical is not based on moral principles and…

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Marrying Ex-Wife Of Adopted Son

We know that the Prophet (pbuh) married the ex-wife of his adopted son. What I fail to understand is whether it would look ethical to marry my adopted son's wife? There must be hundreds of ladies at that time then why did the Prophet [pbuh] choose her?

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According to the Qur'an the real son is the biological son. Adopted son is not real son. The Qur'an condemned the pre-Islamic concept that the adopted son is just like real son. The people of Pre-Islamic Arabia did not approve of marrying the ex-wives of the adopted sons. The Qur'an corrected this concept. Now we believe that the social construct like the one you are presenting as ethical is not based on moral principles and…

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Pornography

What is your viewpoint on adult issues, like pornography? Do you recommend any remedy for its addicts?

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Four our viewpoint on the issue please refer to: Why can’t Adults view Pornography?

I hope this helps. If anything remains unanswered please feel free to write back.



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Adultery And Repentance

I am a Muslim married man, but have had illicit relations with many women, most of them Muslims. With one particular woman, I had prolonged relations. She became pregnant. Upon discovery, we aborted the child. She wanted to marry me afterwards but I could not as I did not want to hurt my wife and children. Even then she wanted to continue the relationship and we had sexual relation many times afterwards. I have recently broken off relations with her and she is very angry and says that she will never forgive me for toying with her. Allah knows that I only broke off as I wanted to redeem myself, I have stopped all such nonsense but am very worried and do not want to go to Hell. Please guide how can I.

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Alhamdulillah that God has given you the courage and will to repent.

The ideal scenario in this case would be that you marry that lady. Please consider this very seriously because this could save her life being ruined.

However, if that is not possible because of your circumstances, then you should at least ask her to also repent from she had been doing and tell her that this relationship cannot go because you have realized that is…

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Troubled Marriage

My married life is too much disturbed. My husband is very much angry man. Most of the time I feel that we are near to divorce but we have three kids. I pray a lot then for a few days I feel relaxed. Some people say that your relation will not remain (God forbid). They say that an enemy is doing black magic for your seperation. I don’t believe in black magic. I want a happy married life for me and specialy for my kids. They can’t bear. Please suggest me what should I do. I am in very serious trouble. I try a lot to make my husband happy. I pray a lot and offer navafil a lot.

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I am sorry to read about your plight. As for the black magic issue, just pray to God that He keep you in His protection and try to remain in a permanent state of wudu.
As for the marriage problems, please try your best to put up with your husband's anger by not reacting and in spite of his bad behavior try to gain a moral victory by conducting yourself with kindness. Take it as…

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Permissibility Of Abortion

I was reading your Q&A about Abortion on your website. Refer to your statement that abortion is not permissible after 120 days in the light of Quran and Hadith. I always follow Quran as main source and with time came to know our clergy just to bring themselves in power has changed views according to their personal views rather than what Quran says. Therefore, it will be highly appreciable if you could provide references or guide me when the soul is put in the child ? And is there any reference in Quran about it?

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Please study the verses of creation in Surah Hajj and Surah Mu'minun. The way they present the development of the human fetus in the womb shows that life is injected at a certain point of time which is after human form had been given by God to it. The count of days given in the narrative is very close to this description. It is highly likely that the information given in the hadith is based…

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Permissiblity Of Abortion

In the western world, it is possible to find out that a child would be produced as down syndrome, which is 100% mental retardation and the whole life he/she has to live as dependant to parents or siblings or government. In case of female child, it is more difficult to take care of such child especially when she is grown up. Sometimes she became pregnant because of sex abuse. It is possible to take care of such children here but not in other 90% third world countries. Even here, they are considered as future burden for financial and social reason as they need a full time supporter whole life. So here, they give an option for abortion if test is positve for such disease. What Islamic ruling could be applied in this case? Is it allowed to abort in such case? Sometimes the test result comes after 120 days of pregnancy. What could be the ruling in that case?

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Abortion after 120 days is not allowed in Islam because it is evident from the Qur'an and Hadith that after this period, a foetus becomes a living human being. Even of the foetus is suffering from a disease, after this period pregnancy cannot be terminated except of course the mother's life is at risk as per the opinion of a doctor.

If Down's Syndrome is detected in a foetus after 120 days, it should not be…

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Forcing The Wife To Work

I am a working woman having three children under age of 8 years. I started my job a year before. This is customer service job so carrying a lot of pressure and stress. Working hours are very long, more than 10 hours a day. So you can imagine that with three children and full time job, life is not much easy. I would like to clear that to start the job was not my decision. I had been forced by my husband to do something to help him in economics. I realized the situation and started the job. Now with the passage of time I started noticing that my husband takes me for granted. He is not interested in fulfilling my needs. Even I don't have freedom to spend my earnings and most of the time I am accountable for that. He is not even willing to listen that sometimes I can be tired, or sad. He doesn't think about some recreation or entertainment together. We hardly go out for something. Even then I don’t feel comfortable and relaxed because of his behavior, I can't buy anything for myself until he permits me to do so. I feel that he has double standards for me and for himself. I feel that I am over worked and over stressed. He doesn't understand my situation and is focused only on his goals like good education for children and some savings. I too concerned about the future but it doesn't mean that I should forget about the present. I tried hard to make him understand about my needs and desires but he just ignores it. I want to know that in the light of Islam that what my actual rights are on my husband and what are his rights towards me.

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As far as the Islamic shariah is concerned, it is absolutely clear that a husband is responsible to earn for the family. He cannot in any case or situation force his wife to earn. If the wife out of her own wish wants to help in some financial crisis, he should be very thankful to her. However, in no case can he forcibly ask her to earn.
Also whatever a wife earns from her job…

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Decent Dress

My wife doesn't dress decently. I have tried to make understand but she is not paying heed to it. I don't know what to do. please guide me in this regards.

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In order to address this issue please address the root cause. Dressing decently is an offshoot of lady's modesty and chastity (hayaa). Unfortunately, today hayaa has been lulled to sleep. But it is present in a lady in dormant form even when she dresses indecently. The correct approach is to awaken this all important faculty in her. The best thing perhaps to do is to not directly force her or argue with her to wear…

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Marriage Age

What is the marrying age for men and women in the Shariah? Can any couple marry each other who had sexual relation before marriage?

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Islam has not prescribed an age limit for marriage. Islam however, directs the Muslims to follow the tradition set by the humans themselves in the light of the innate guidance provided to them, and the practice of the Prophets and Messengers which requires that only adult male and female should enter the marriage bond. By adulthood in this context we mean mental and physical maturity.

Islam does not forbid two fornicators to marry each other.…

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