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Head Covering And The Shari’ah

I happened to come across the opinion that propounds that head covering for women is not part of the Shariah. I am interested in knowing the reasoning behind.

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We believe that head covering is not the part of the Shari‘ah directives regarding etiquette of gender interaction. That certainly does not mean that proponents of this view aim at making women throwing off their head coverings. Rather it is only to identify the Shari‘ah directives in this regard. The dress code that the Arabs would follow had not been introduced by the Shair’ah rather it was in currency before the advent of Islam. The…

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Children Turned Agnostics

I hope that this letter finds everyone with the perfect Iman. I have a serious dilemma, and I am sure I am not alone in this situation. I am also sure that some brothers and sisters may have faced this situation and may have some answers that will help others in the similar matter.
I am an immigrant to USA who has settled here for the last thirty years. I have raised my family here. We were not the very strict family, but followed Islam in every way and raised our children, who were also good in understanding and following the deen. Since we were in a small town, the exposure to other good Muslim families was limited, and now that we have a larger Muslim group and have an Islamic Center, things are different. They have studied Islam, Qur'an and understood it fully that this is the right way.
But during this time the children have grown up and have left for colleges, out of town. It is there that we saw problems, and now it seems that the children have abandoned the deen and became openly agnostics. We are very much devastated by it and after trying hard through family, through talks, meetings with the imam, and with Islamic scholars, all attempts have failed. Right now all we have is Dua's and hope in the mercy of Allah, that He shall guide these kids back. We have also informed them that the non-Muslim children are not part of the family and will be out of touch and on their own, in addition to disinherit them as well.
Now , we are looking for any help that will provide some guidance for us to redirect these unfortunate kids back to the deen and save them from the fire of Hell. May Allah Protect us all from it. ameen
I am not sure, if this is what is written in the fate, or the effect of this society, pressures from the peers, or what, it may be that we kept them in strict control, and when they got out of the house, it happened. But whatever may be the reason, now we are faced with this situation, and seek help from your esteem resources.

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I can understand you concern on the issue. It is indeed very unfortunate that your children have practically left the religion they previously followed and have forgotten the tradition they belong to. At the same time it is very encouraging that you have grasped the gravity of the matter and are concerned with the present state of affairs. It is indeed aggressive indoctrination and lack of objective education that leaves the people in doubt regarding…

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Second Marriage And Permission Of The First Wife

A husband asks his wife to permit him to marry another woman. She refuses to permit him would. He has the financial resources to take care of both her wifes. What does Islam say about the woman?

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According to the Shari'ah the man has the right to take another wife. He is not obliged legally to seek permission from his wife. The wife however can show her resentment. It is very natural. She cannot be declared to have committed a sin. However, it would be very wise for the husband to take her into confidence. It is not very wise in the present day social set up to cope with the problems…

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Plight Of An Abandoned Wife

I was married to my husband in September and got pregnant immediately after. He thought the baby was someone else's and he accused me of zinaa without any witnesses and kicked me out over a month ago. I moved back home with my parents in a different state. Since then I have had little to no communication with him. He is not supporting me and my unborn child financially. He continuously slanders my name, threatens me and emotionally abuses me. I know that under the Shari'ah law he is obligated to financially support me until I have my child. However, in his mind he is not my husband anymore. He said, "I will exercise my right to divorce" through a text message without witnesses but it was never said to my face. I do not wish to see or speak to him ever again. How would our divorce go if we don’t even have contact with each other? Also, neither one of us has Muslim family and neither one of us has legally changed our names. He goes by an Islamic name which doesn’t have his father's lineage (he got the name from a Muslim woman he calls Ummi that isn’t actually his mother) and his legal last name comes from his mother. Since neither name that he has contains his father's lineage which last name would I give my baby? Would it be haraam for me to give the baby my last name since he's denying that he is the father?

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Very sorry to hear all this. As far as the divorce issue is concerned, if you do not want to remain his wife you can just ask for divorce and file for it legally. A court settlement will also take care of your and your baby's expenses.

However, you must name the baby by adding his actual father's name -- because however much your husband may deny it, he is your baby's father.

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Breaking A Relationship

I have a fiance and I love someone else alot. My fiance just visited me with her dad and she is now living for a small period of time with me. The girl I love alot knows about my situation and she can’t accept it but I love her alot. I dont want to marry her. I really don’t know what to do. I am planning to leave Uk or go on hidding. I can’t stand all this. My parents will be worried for my missing and they will be very angry. I don’t know what to do please help me out. The other girl is not willing to let me have her and my fiance. I don’t know how to make her, and I don’t want to marry. I saw my fiance for the first time and I can’t stand all this.

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You have all the right to change your mind and not marry your fiancé. No one -- not even your parents have the right to force you to marry someone you do not want to. You should just politely refuse the marriage (I am assuming that the nikah has not taken place).



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Dealing With A Delinquent Husband

Consider a husband who does not provide for the family has also indulged int drinking, extra-marital relations, and justifies his wrong doings. What guidance does Islam provide to the wife in this situation? Your resposne will highly be appreciated.

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Islam obliges the husband to provide for the wife and family. It is his duty to provide for all the needs of his wife. However, if he fails to do so and indulges in sin he may be reminded politely by the wife to leave the sinful activities and pay attention to his obligations towards his family. If that does not work the woman should bring the issue before her family and elders and they…

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Marriage Before Talaq

I am a married woman. My husband is an atheist. We don’t live as husband and wife since long. I am thinkinv over divorcing him. However, here, in Europe it takes long time. We have to follow the laws. I want to marry a Muslim man. Am I allowed to re-marry while the divorce process has not yet been finalized?

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If you were living in an Islamic State where Islam is truly in practice the marriage with the atheist would have been invalidated by the court at the time he embraced atheism. However, in your country you have to obey the laws. This issue is not only religious but also social therefore you have to wait for the conclusion of divorce before you can marry a Muslim man. It would create legal and social problems…

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Contagious Disease And Safety Of The Family

If one is infected with a contagious disease that doesn't have a cure. Is he allowed to still live with his family or does he have to relocate or something. And his family cannot be aware of his medical situation because he is sure it will cause more problems rather than resolving any.

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One is allowed to live with his family in this situation. Rather it is one's right that the family takes care of him when he is in distress. He should disclose the problem and give the family a chance to serve him. If they are not cooperative then he may decide to leave but he should not simply move away without taking them in confidence.



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Involuntary Ejaculation

I have developed a problem of involuntary ejaculation. Should I do wudu for every prayer or should I also change underwear for every prayer which is not possible because all the day I am in the office?

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In such extreme cases one needs to do wudu before every prayer. If it is impossible to change the underwear every time one may continue offering the prayers as you do.



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Can A Divorced Couple Live Together?

I am confused about the issue of triple talaq. One of our relatives, in extreme anger, declares two divorces. His son shut his mouth. The next day he again gives talaq in one sitting three times. The man is about seventy years of age and his wife is about sixty five. The man is very sick and is lying on bed all the time. They have five children all of them are married. The couple has many grandsons and granddaughters. Keeping this in perspective please explain whether the divorce is effective. Also please explain the issue of iddah in this senior age. The man and the woman live together with their son in the same house.

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I regret to state that it is not possible for us to judge the issue. This is because such disputed affairs may only be judged and decided by a court or qazi whose verdict is implemented in the society. We can at best give our academic response that would not be of any practical help. Besides the decision must only be given after thorough examination of the testimonies of the related people including the witnesses.…

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Can A Divorced Couple Live Together?

I am confused about the issue of triple talaq. One of our relatives, in extreme anger, declares two divorces. His son shut his mouth. The next day he again gives talaq in one sitting three times. The man is about seventy years of age and his wife is about sixty five. The man is very sick and is lying on bed all the time. They have five children all of them are married. The couple has many grandsons and granddaughters. Keeping this in perspective please explain whether the divorce is effective. Also please explain the issue of iddah in this senior age. The man and the woman live together with their son in the same house.

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I regret to state that it is not possible for us to judge the issue. This is because such disputed affairs may only be judged and decided by a court or qazi whose verdict is implemented in the society. We can at best give our academic response that would not be of any practical help. Besides the decision must only be given after thorough examination of the testimonies of the related people including the witnesses.…

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How To Deal With An Adulterer Spouse

I was reading your article about adultery and found out it is forbidden in Islam to marry an adulterer. Fine. But adultery can only be committed after being married right. If for the sake of discussion some married person commits adultery what should the other partner do as far as Islam is concerned? Should he or she leave the other partner or should he or she make him or her understand that it is wrong? If he or she is required to leave the adulterer partner should it be done through proper divorce according to Islam or nikah would instantly be cancelled?

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The ruling is not restricted to adultery (zina by the married) but includes the fornicators (zina by the unmarried). However, it is when a person commits zina and is convicted then he is not allowed to marry a chaste woman.

Another case is when a wife accuses her husband or the husband accuses his wife of adultery and there are no witnesses both are separated after li‘aan (Qazaf) Such a person is not equal…

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Chatting With The Unrelated Men And Women

Now a day people use the Facebook and they chat with girls and boys. Is it Islamically right to chat with the members of opposite sex? Sometimes chatters make a good friend and share their knowledge of Islam. Would such interaction with the unrelated male and female individuals allowable?

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We believe that Islam allows socialization. The only thing the members of the opposite sex need to be conscious of is that they do not indulge in talk that is immoral, irreligious and prone to afflict their morality. They also need to be modest and do not indulge in immodesty.



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Status Of The Marriage Of An Adulterer

If a person who has committed fornication is not convicted by the court can he marry a chaste woman? Is a married adulterer allowed to live with his wife while nobody knows about his crime?

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By “convicted” we mean convicted by the court. If a case remains unnoticed and the person involved knows that such and such person is committing this sin he should not propagate the sin. When the individual realizes his sin he needs to seek God's forgiveness and keep it to himself. Please note that these rules are social. Indulgence in zina is of course sinful. One has to be held answerable before at least the court…

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Delay In A Girl’s Marriage

I have a question regarding the girls who do are not fortunate enough to get married in time. Their marriage is delayed. Does this mean that such a girl has done something wrong for which she is being punished? If not then why a girl who does not even have high expectations and standards goes through such difficult trial?

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All the difficulties and adversities we face during the course of life do not necessarily mean that we have done something wrong and that Allah is not pleased with us. No doubt at times some of the problems are intended to warn us but some others are merely a form of test and trial. We know that every human being is undergoing a sort of test. Some are being tested through good fortune. They are…

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Iddah And Provision

1. Is iddah compulsory while the wife and husband are leaving in different countries from last five months?

2. Is the obligation to provide for the ex-wife is still applicable when wife demands divorce from her husband and if she is earning?

3. Should the husband demand whatever given to wife except mehr in the above case?

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The iddah seems to be intended for two purposes: to ascertain pregnancy and to give a chance of reconciliation. For the couple living separate the first point may be ignored but the second remains operative. Besides the laws given by the Almighty are important in form and spirit. If we believe that the underlying reason of an active is no more operative in a case yet we should follow the form. Therefore, I would say…

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Sexual Intimacy Between Husband And Wife

There is a lot of confusion and misinformation viz a viz what is allowed in Islam regarding husband and wife intimacy. Please clarify in the light of Qur’ān and Ḥadīth.

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The issue of sexual intimacy between a husband and wife has given rise to a lot of confusion. It needs to be appreciated that in this regard as per the Qur’ān and its dictates, three things stand prohibited:

1. Intercourse during menses

2. Anal intercourse

3. Oral Intercourse (both fellatio and cunnilingus)

These restrictions are mentioned in the following verse of the Qur’ān:

وَيَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِيضِ قُلْ هُوَ أَذًى فَاعْتَزِلُواْ النِّسَاء فِي الْمَحِيضِ وَلاَ تَقْرَبُوهُنَّ حَتَّىَ يَطْهُرْنَ فَإِذَا…

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No Of Divorces In The Qur’an

I do not find three divorces in the Quran. Quran talks about only two divorces. I find three divorces in the Ahadith but not as the Islamic education but as the cases that came to the Prophet Muhammabd [pbuh] that a person divorced three times. Where did we get this three divorce in Islām? Please take note that I am not talking about three divorces at a time in one sitting.

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Divorce law is part of the sunnah instituted by the Prophet [pbuh]. It was not initiated by the Qur'an. It was already there and the Prophet [pbuh] instituted it as part of the Shari'ah. Therefore, primarily the laws governing divorce are based on the Sunnah. However, the Qur'an has also taken it up as it aimed at clarifying certain issues. We can see that the Qur'an implies that there are three talaqs. Consider the…

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Marriage Of A Convert

I have been told by a friend that a new Muslim boy convert cannot marry a Muslim girl. He can only marry with a new Muslim girl. Kindly guide me in this regard.

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There is no such command in Islam. Islam allows marriage with a believer regardless of the duration of his or her faith. We need not listen to those who forward claims without asking for sound religious proofs. I would suggest you ask those who forwarded this claim for arguments. I hope you will find none.



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Marriage Of A Convert

I have been told by a friend that a new Muslim boy convert cannot marry a Muslim girl. He can only marry with a new Muslim girl. Kindly guide me in this regard.

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There is no such command in Islam. Islam allows marriage with a believer regardless of the duration of his or her faith. We need not listen to those who forward claims without asking for sound religious proofs. I would suggest you ask those who forwarded this claim for arguments. I hope you will find none.



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