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Chatting With The Unrelated Men And Women

Now a day people use the Facebook and they chat with girls and boys. Is it Islamically right to chat with the members of opposite sex? Sometimes chatters make a good friend and share their knowledge of Islam. Would such interaction with the unrelated male and female individuals allowable?

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We believe that Islam allows socialization. The only thing the members of the opposite sex need to be conscious of is that they do not indulge in talk that is immoral, irreligious and prone to afflict their morality. They also need to be modest and do not indulge in immodesty.



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Status Of The Marriage Of An Adulterer

If a person who has committed fornication is not convicted by the court can he marry a chaste woman? Is a married adulterer allowed to live with his wife while nobody knows about his crime?

Answer:

By “convicted” we mean convicted by the court. If a case remains unnoticed and the person involved knows that such and such person is committing this sin he should not propagate the sin. When the individual realizes his sin he needs to seek God's forgiveness and keep it to himself. Please note that these rules are social. Indulgence in zina is of course sinful. One has to be held answerable before at least the court…

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Delay In A Girl’s Marriage

I have a question regarding the girls who do are not fortunate enough to get married in time. Their marriage is delayed. Does this mean that such a girl has done something wrong for which she is being punished? If not then why a girl who does not even have high expectations and standards goes through such difficult trial?

Answer:

All the difficulties and adversities we face during the course of life do not necessarily mean that we have done something wrong and that Allah is not pleased with us. No doubt at times some of the problems are intended to warn us but some others are merely a form of test and trial. We know that every human being is undergoing a sort of test. Some are being tested through good fortune. They are…

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Dealing With A Husband Who Cheated

I hope this finds you well in spirit and in health. My question is a bit compplex and I apologize if it is hard to follow. I have been married for almost eleven months. I love my husband very much. But he lied to me about a major issue. When we married he assured me that he was divorced. Soon after the marraige he told me that in fact he wasn’t divorced and that she is living with his kids in his country. I am an American woman and I grew up christian. I know that it is halal for a muslim man to have up to 4 wives, however I have always known that I just couldn’t handle that situation for myself. I cannot share my man. I do not know what this means about me; I dont know if it makes me weak. I simply know that it is killing me inside. I LOVE ALLAH and I love my deen. I want to be as pious as possible. I pray about this all the time. BUT it is not getting better, infact it is getting worse. I dont know if I should stay in the marriage. Please help me.

Answer:

Based on what you wrote your husband has done something that goes against not only Islamic values but also Islamic law. If he has entered the contract of marriage with you with a false information then he has basically cheated you into accepting that contract. The contract is of course valid, but it is based on false grounding.

This is my suggestion:
The human psyche is a complicated one. You need to study your…

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Celibacy

I do not wish to get married, or have children, I do have the feeling for having a women but personell reasons do not want to get married is it sinful?

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It is not a sin, although it can lead to sin. You want to deprive yourself from one of the most magnificent blessings of the Almighty. It is sad, but not sin.



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Believing Lady Marrying A Behai Man

Can a Muslim woman marry a behai man?

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If the woman is Muslim that means she does not consider Mirza Hussain Ali (who is known as Baha'ullah by Baha'ies) as a prophet of God. Since we are sure from the reports that Mirza Hussain Ali claimed to be a prophet of God then the woman considers him to be a liar.

How can there be a peacfull and sustainable family unit when one pllar of the unit (woman) considers the master of faith of…

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Further On Believing Lady Marrying A Behai Man

The way you put it is very understandable and will make one think more than once to go ahead with such a marriage. But as we are born into this world human beings with a heart, a heart that sometimes prevails over all logical understanding. I therefore ask you kindly to help me answer this question within the laws of Islam. Is the marriage of a Muslim woman to a baha'i man allowed or not?

Answer:

I will refer you to some relevant answers published in our associated websites for the ruling you enquired about, however before that I would like to encourage you to read my first answer more carefully and to think about it more seriously. You wrote that you were human being with heart and that not all times logic might prevail over heart. I fully understand this. It is because of the same concept that I wrote…

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Fantasizing Unrelated Women

I have been Muslim for about two years now, and in my past life I was all about women. Now that I’m a Muslim. It has been the hardest battle to fight. I battle this every moment of the day, and sometimes I manage, while other times I feel that Shaytan has me under control like a puppet. I have been recently married for a year now, and sometimes seeing other women in public, TV, internet, etc., has led me to fantasize and lust. My fantasizing and lust gets to the uncontrollable stage, that is when I enjoin my wife in relations, I fantasize about other women and picture them and block out my wife. Please help me with this issue, as I feel it is a cancer eating away at my soul.

Answer:

This is my suggestion:

1. Consider yourself as a person who needs to go through rehab in order to get rid of an addiction.
2. Set a certain period of time as your rehab time (this needs to be long enough so that it can be effective but not too long that makes you insensitive about it).
3. Before starting this period do a prayer of repenting, simply read two units of prayer and ask God to forgive…

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Status Of Magic And Meaning Of The Expression “What Your Right Hands Possess”

I know prostitution is a sin but can you please tell me then what does it mean by "Whom your right hand possess?"

Secondly, what is wedlock? It’s an understanding or a contract between a male and female.
My previous question was:
Is magic possible? If yes then how to get out of it?
With my humble understanding of Qur’an, it is not possible to do magic. But history (Hadith) tells you that it is possible. So should I follow history or Qur’an?

Answer:

"Whom your right hand posses" refers to slaves. The concept of adultery is totally different from the concept of sex with slaves. The foundation of the first is simply and only to satisfy lust. This is not true for either sex in marriage or (the no longer relevant practice of) sex with slaves.

Wedlock is a contract that is resulted from mutual understanding and agreement of the husband and the wife.
Magic is…

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Iddah And Provision

1. Is iddah compulsory while the wife and husband are leaving in different countries from last five months?

2. Is the obligation to provide for the ex-wife is still applicable when wife demands divorce from her husband and if she is earning?

3. Should the husband demand whatever given to wife except mehr in the above case?

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The iddah seems to be intended for two purposes: to ascertain pregnancy and to give a chance of reconciliation. For the couple living separate the first point may be ignored but the second remains operative. Besides the laws given by the Almighty are important in form and spirit. If we believe that the underlying reason of an active is no more operative in a case yet we should follow the form. Therefore, I would say…

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Sexual Intimacy Between Husband And Wife

There is a lot of confusion and misinformation viz a viz what is allowed in Islam regarding husband and wife intimacy. Please clarify in the light of Qur’ān and Ḥadīth.

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The issue of sexual intimacy between a husband and wife has given rise to a lot of confusion. It needs to be appreciated that in this regard as per the Qur’ān and its dictates, three things stand prohibited:

1. Intercourse during menses

2. Anal intercourse

3. Oral Intercourse (both fellatio and cunnilingus)

These restrictions are mentioned in the following verse of the Qur’ān:

وَيَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِيضِ قُلْ هُوَ أَذًى فَاعْتَزِلُواْ النِّسَاء فِي الْمَحِيضِ وَلاَ تَقْرَبُوهُنَّ حَتَّىَ يَطْهُرْنَ فَإِذَا…

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No Of Divorces In The Qur’an

I do not find three divorces in the Quran. Quran talks about only two divorces. I find three divorces in the Ahadith but not as the Islamic education but as the cases that came to the Prophet Muhammabd [pbuh] that a person divorced three times. Where did we get this three divorce in Islām? Please take note that I am not talking about three divorces at a time in one sitting.

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Divorce law is part of the sunnah instituted by the Prophet [pbuh]. It was not initiated by the Qur'an. It was already there and the Prophet [pbuh] instituted it as part of the Shari'ah. Therefore, primarily the laws governing divorce are based on the Sunnah. However, the Qur'an has also taken it up as it aimed at clarifying certain issues. We can see that the Qur'an implies that there are three talaqs. Consider the…

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Marriage Of A Convert

I have been told by a friend that a new Muslim boy convert cannot marry a Muslim girl. He can only marry with a new Muslim girl. Kindly guide me in this regard.

Answer:

There is no such command in Islam. Islam allows marriage with a believer regardless of the duration of his or her faith. We need not listen to those who forward claims without asking for sound religious proofs. I would suggest you ask those who forwarded this claim for arguments. I hope you will find none.



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Marriage Of A Convert

I have been told by a friend that a new Muslim boy convert cannot marry a Muslim girl. He can only marry with a new Muslim girl. Kindly guide me in this regard.

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There is no such command in Islam. Islam allows marriage with a believer regardless of the duration of his or her faith. We need not listen to those who forward claims without asking for sound religious proofs. I would suggest you ask those who forwarded this claim for arguments. I hope you will find none.



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Family Planning And Predestination

It has been stated by the Qur’an (7:172) that Allah took covenant from all the human beings, from Adam to the last man to come before the Last Day. Does this mean that the number of human beings to is already set? If yes then why do people try to upset this divine plan? Why do they take precautionary measures and do abortions etc.? If their number is not fixed then how can we interpret this verse?

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According to the Qur'an all the people were presented before the Lord and were made to enter the referred to covenant. They included all the people to come before the Last Day. This means that we cannot add to or subtract the total number of human beings.

However, this number was known to Allah Almighty alone. Human do not know this. Just as we try to treat a disease and do not know whether a…

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Adoption In Islam

Is adoption allowed in Islam? What will happen to orphans if adoption is not allowed?

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We can of course adopt children, orphaned or others. However, the Holy Qur’an requires us to call the adopted child with the name of his/her real fathers. The child adopted in infancy and suckled can only be given names of the adopting person on the basis of the fact that adopting family becomes foster parents. We know that fostering renders a child within the haram relations (they cannot marry within the family.



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Divorce During Pregnancy And Baby Shower

My husband divorced me during pregnancy. Is he allowed to do that?

Is it haram to find out the sex of the baby doing an ultrasound?
Is it haram to have a baby shower?

Answer:

Thank you for writing to us. One can divorce his wife during the pregnancy. However, in this case the iddah will extend to the birth of the child. It will not remain confined to three menstrual cycles (which discontinue during this time) or three months. We believe there is nothing wrong with finding the sex of the baby. Nor is there any problem with the baby shower.



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Social Networking

What is the status of usage of the Facebook? Are we allowed to use it?

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We do not find any religious ruling against the use of facebook or any other social networking platform. However, evil is not allowed to be spread and practiced in any manner and in any platform.



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Parental Approval For Marrying A Convert

One female accpeted islam by seeking certain religious knowledge from me. After few years we planned to marry each other. Her non-Muslim parents are opposing. My parents are too much opposing. This marriage is the only scope for her to live as a Muslim and both of us wish to live together in the path of Allah. After knowing a female for six years, if my parents are not allowing to marry a converted Muslim, who will marry. Please provide your answer in the light of Islam. I want to make my parents comprehend. Is it sinful to disobey parents in this issue? If my parents object what can I do. Already we have postponed our marriage due to these issues for two years. More than a year or two we can’t wait also. If my parents accept and her parents rejet what can be done, within the light of Islam. Please provide your answer in the light provided by the Prophet (sws).

Answer:

You have done your best in convincing your parents and if they do accept your choice while the girl's parents do not then she is not bound to follow their wish in this regard. However, both you and she must contemplate the consequences of a social boycott by her parents.

Religiously, however, you have all the liberty to take this decision even if your own parents do not agree.



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Sex Education

What does Islam say about sex education? Is it allowable? If yes what is the guideline regarding it.

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Islam leaves this matter to common sense and experience and does not lay down any specific course for this.



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