I viewed a Q & A session of you in which you were asked if we would be with our same family (Parents, Wife etc) in life after in jannat. You replied that we would wake up with the same mentality/ character as this life and be with the same loved ones. In fact, If one of our relatives (Parents) are at a higher level in Janat, They will call us there too or if we are at a higher level of janat, We will call them there too. So apparently we can grow there. Weather we can or we can not grow, My question is that where did you get this understanding from that we can call our loved ones up the level and what reference of Quran you can quote for the defense.
Thank you for your question. It is true that if both the parents and the children enter Paradise, they will be united with each other by the grace of God. The Almighty has said:
وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَاتَّبَعَتْهُمْ ذُرِّيَّتُهُمْ بِإِيمَانٍ أَلْحَقْنَا بِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ وَمَا أَلَتْنَاهُمْ مِنْ عَمَلِهِمْ مِنْ شَيْءٍ كُلُّ امْرِئٍ بِمَا كَسَبَ رَهِينٌ
"Those who have accepted faith, and their children too followed them with any level of faith, We shall unite their children with them [in their level] and not even slightly diminish the reward of their deeds..." (Surah Toor 52: Aayah 21)
Ustaz Ghamidi commenting on this Aayah writes:
"This is a further glad tiding: if the children of people of faith are worthy of Paradise even if they merit the lowest level, the Almighty in order to complete His favour upon them will grant the children the same level as their parents and both will be united at one place.
It is evident from this that same will be the case when the parents are at some lower level because the love between the parents and the children which is instrumental in uniting the children with the parents, is present in the second case as well." (Ghamidi; Al-Bayaan, Tr: Dr. Shehzad Saleem)