I am planning to get married to a lady. She is keen on the nikah but is delaying the mahr. We are planning for the two families of ours to meet each other for the nikah but she is placing a lot of emphasis on the Waleemah nikah when she will announce the mahr after which she wants the marriage to be consummated. Is this allowed for her to delay the announcement of the mahr to me in order to postpone consummation?
The Holy Qur'an expressly allows delay in defining the mahr amount. However, it does not restrict the couple to enter into sexual relations before deciding the amount of mahr. Mahr can be decided later on but marriage can be consummated earlier. This too is based on express directives of Islam.