Regarding Marriage


A man asked a religious scholar on TV about marrying a woman with whom he already had a relationship. The scholar forbade the marriage. He considered the woman unworthy of the man as she was already involved with him. Islam, in my view, promotes virtue instead of condemning people?


There are two aspects to this question, which need to be discussed separately. As Muslims, we have been commanded to be chaste. And chaste men and women have been ordered to seek spouses of the same attribute. This is the principle of marriage. Even if one has stumbled in life, then he/she should purify their souls through repentance and then marry.

Here the condition is different. Both the man and woman are guilty. It is sad and amusing to hear only the woman being held accountable. Both of them should repent, seek Allah's forgiveness and then marry. This would grant them honour before Allah.

This question was answered by Mr Ghamidi in Deen-o-Danish, an online TV session hosted by Dr Muneer Ahmad aired on Dunay TV. The text has been rendered into English by Mr Dhu al-Nurain.

About the Author

Javed Ahmad Ghamidi

Javed Ahmad Ghamidi was born in 1951 in a village of Sahiwal, a district of the Punjab province. After matriculating from a local school, he came to Lahore in 1967 where he is settled eversince. He did his BA honours (part I) in English Literature and Philosophy from the Government College, Lahore in 1972 and studied Islamic disciplines in the traditional manner from various teachers and scholars throughout his early years. In 1973, he came under the tutelage of Amin Ahsan Islahi (d. 1997) (, who was destined to who have a deep impact on him. He was also associated with the famous scholar and revivalist Abu al-A‘la Mawdudi (d. 1979) for several years. He taught Islamic studies at the Civil Services Academy for more than a decade from 1979 to 1991.

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